The short version
Letting go does not require proving that the past was meaningless. It only requires recognizing what is no longer sustainable.
Why this matters
You can understand why someone behaves a certain way without volunteering to keep absorbing the impact of that behavior.
A boundary becomes more useful when it is expressed through what you do, not through an increasingly detailed defense of why you need it.
You may notice this when
- You are maintaining access mainly to avoid another person's disappointment.
- The relationship only feels peaceful when your needs are absent.
- You keep explaining a limit that has already been stated clearly.
Try this in real life
One small move
Ask what level of access matches the relationship as it actually exists now.
A question worth sitting with
What am I continuing mainly because I do not want someone else to be disappointed?
You do not need to answer it immediately. Let the question stay open long enough to notice what feels different when the first reaction settles.
Sometimes closure is a behavior, not a conversation.